Cutting Through Stuckness by Focusing on Shared Future ⭐Feb 02, 2023
A few weeks ago I was on a desert hike with some friends. Our conversation went to climate change, where he accused me of being motivated more by the ego of having an unusual perspective than actually pursuing the truth. Despite my initial defensiveness, I was able to see that he was right. He was calling me to a higher integrity… to come from my heart. My heart wasn't in playing devil’s advocate, it was in our shared passion for concrete solutions. We both want to protect our environment, animals, people, and economies. We respect each other’s views, even when we disagree. Focusing on the shared vision would allow us to include our differences to bring more creativity to how to get to what we both want.
This is often how I look for ways out of stuck relational dynamics. What good future do we both want? It's not always the case, but more often than not letting go of attachment to the old details allows us include present differences generatively. And ironically —beautifully— aligning on a shared goal creates the sense of being on the same team, which allows us to address old hurts, heal, apologize, and forgive.
With love, Jordan
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