In defense of being considerate 🙂May 18, 2023
I’m thinking of a friend who recently had a man “joke” with her about being on her period. She found it extremely disrespectful and let him know. He tried to defend himself as “just teasing”.
Imagine yourself having done the same thing. What motivated you to make a joke in the first place? Some sort of pain and some genuine desire for connection perhaps. Then why defend yourself at all? You don’t want to defend the pain, and you still want connection. So wouldn’t your most endorsed response be, “thanks”? This is the same theme I’ve been writing on for the past few weeks. Authentic doesn’t equal asshole. Authenticity usually transcends and includes being polite. If that doesn't make sense yet please take it as a challenge.
Not to make the man (or ourselves) wrong, or bad. I’ve been an authentic asshole. I’ve been a lot of unsavory justified as “authentic”. I wonder how much of my writing is me atoning for my mistakes by trying to get others not to make them.
With love, Jordan
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