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Kids will bring out psychological lessons from your own childhood 👨‍👩‍👧‍👧

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I project my younger self onto my son and my unlearned lessons from childhood are ready to greet me. I’m also defaulting to the imprints absorbed pre-verbally from the way my parents raised my sister and I. Meanwhile my wife is feeling her unlearned lessons, and defaulting to habits passed down by her parents. When we’re not aware of this, it’s like four extra psycho-emotional patterns in the room!  

The upshot is compassion. For my wife: When I remember she’s not reacting to me most of the time, but her projection from childhood. And for myself: For doing the same.


With love, Jordan


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