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Living in full alignment and loving your life 🔨

3things interpersonal growth jordan myska allen personal growth relatefulness stayinlove Nov 05, 2025

 

On Sunday night I saw Jacob Collier play live. He’s probably the most virtuosic musician alive, but what makes him so special is how deeply he transmits love. He’s playful, humble, and so genuinely appreciative of being and doing exactly what he is. What struck me is how the source of this love seems to be how he's in love with his life, and living in deep alignment.

That kind of life alignment hums. It’s infectious, and inspiring. Long hours in flow feel like play even when others would tire. It's not about enjoyment perse; an aligned mother doing the hard work of raising an infant might be in love with her life.

Singing with the crowd at Jacob’s show, I started feeling new possibilities open up, without making the current wrong. I started thinking about loving-your-life as a service to others, perhaps one of the greatest services. It is both unabashed and unassuming. It offers goodness with no requirements, offers inspiration without pressure. It needs no particular resource outside of oneself (consider Ramanujan revolutionizing math while in poverty) so it avoids philosophical traps of fairness, or ethical traps of ends-justifying-means (I believe goodness is a feature of reality, so alignment categorically leads to goodness). It demands surrender and self-acceptance.

I started thinking about loving-your-life as a signal to help us see where we’re out of alignment, and adjust more quickly for less suffering and more loving. Every carpenter knows this; when the nail is bent, trying to just hammer it in makes life harder in the long run than slowing down to get into alignment.

 

With love, Jordan

 

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